It’s only Fail if you Quit

There may come a time when some people want to give up their passion because they lose focus and forget why they took it up in the first place.  Long standing martial artists will always remember the original reason for taking up the martial arts.  People of my vintage will often say it was because of the Bruce Lee movies in the ‘70s.  My reasons were based on school yard bullying; I was tired of coming out second best because most of the bullies were usually stronger and faster than me.  After a few months training I went and saw the Bruce Lee movies; this was the deciding factor the martial arts would be my lifelong ambition.

Students need to remember the reason for starting up the martial arts in the first place and should always cherish that decision.  Martial arts promote a positive and healthy lifestyle as well good friendship.  The martial arts had a positive influence in my teen years upbringing, I said NO to drugs, NO to smoking, NO to bad company and I said NO to quitting.  Many people since, have followed my lead.  However, quitting may be lead to negative lifestyle changes because the quitter starts to look for something else.  This is when kids are most vulnerable and may end up doing something unfavourable. 

There a few things that needs to be sorted out after promotion to Probationary Black Belt (Shodan-Ho).  There is a 12 month period in which you have to show cause you are worthy to retain that belt.  During that time you need to act like one, perform like one and speak like one.  This is the bridging period from coloured belt to black belt. 

Nearly a Black Belt is not a Black Belt as some people might think.  The people around you may regard it as ‘fail’ and it doesn’t matter what excuses you give them because they will have their own opinions about why you may have quit.

Those who receive their 1st Degree ranking after their probation should keep in mind ‘the best part of getting a Black Belt is being a Black Belt’. It's only 'fail' if you quit'.
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Clear Head

It has taken so many years in the martial arts to understand that taking it nice and easy achieves better results in sparring, wrestling and self defence.  By that I mean keeping a cool head under pressure which ensures the mind and body are working at their optimum.  Not many of us have mastered this because we tend to let our emotions get in the way which results in tunnel vision, a reduction in cognitive thinking (distorted mind) and physical ability (running out of steam).

I remember one particular major karate tournament, in the ‘80s, I had come up against one of Australia’s favourite and feared fighters who had a bad temper and would wack you in the face if he thought you were trying to get the better of him (I still have vivid memories of that mean look on his face).  I dreaded the idea of being in his weight category but as Murphy’s Law would have it, I also ended up having to fight him. 

I didn’t care so much about trying to beat this guy; I was more concerned about not getting hurt.  In the ‘80s nobody was around to rescue you if things got out of hand, it was an era of hard training and hard fighters.  I showed my opponent that I had no interest in trying to beat him by being and looking relaxed in order to convince him I was no threat.  However, this fight was one of my best ones ever, losing by a very controversial measly half point (3 points to 2.5 points).  My instructor was absolutely amazed and it was not obvious, at the time, why I did so well. 

In law enforcement and security, I did very well, sometimes extremely well, with the same attitude by staying relaxed and not letting emotions taking over situations.  If you make it personal then you become emotional and that may spell dismal failure.  The professionals who work at the door, cops on the job, bodyguards are usually successful for many reasons but a big part of it is mainly they are able to avoid becoming emotional and treat situations as part of their job.  This is what needs to be learned in the martial arts – stay relaxed and detach from emotion.  This will ensure a clear head.
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‘I Do’

 We’ve all seen vows take place at weddings especially the 'I do' bit and then it’s all over and done with but nobody thinks, at the time, how much time and effort has gone leading into this moment.

Tournament is usually a one day event and competing may only be a matter of minutes.  The most important part is the preparation and training leading up to the event. 

I hear some students say, ‘I am not ready’.  Does that mean they are not willing, or does that mean they are not ready to take on the extra training?   In martial arts competition there is no such thing as losing as long as you did your very best.  But there is an upside to this.  Stepping into the arena is an opportunity to test your skills and gain experience that only competition can provide.  I notice the incredible improvement in students who put their hands up to compete.  Not only does their sparring and kata improve but overall skills and confidence.

I was talking to Billy ‘the Kid’ (World Champion Boxer) today about how many people out there are willing take on everybody as long as they don’t have to step out the front door of their school.  It’s best these people, especially those who have never competed, to keep quiet and maintain a low profile because it is a small world. 

Whilst competition is not for everybody I do encourage students to at least, just the once, experience that arousal and adrenalin when confronted outside the norm of their surroundings – call it a little preparation for that shocking street encounter should it ever happen.  Those who don't compete should look at becoming skilled coaches and motivators to assist those who want to 'take on the world'.

Letting students know they have the potential is all it may take for them to say, ‘I do’ when asked, ‘who wants to compete.’
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Congratulations to our fine young outstanding athletes last weekend at the recent AMAC championships:
Etan Foo, Siddarth Warrier, Jake Mountford, Alex Piotrowski, Kyle Welevita.

The Greatest Feeling Ever

In the martial arts, people who are not concerned with belts are usually in it for the long haul.  Those who aspire for belts rather than knowledge, it would seem they have a very short martial arts life span unless attitudes change.  The importance of a belt is what it stands for and what you do for it.  Any other way he or she is either being misled or is misleading themselves.

Those who have received a belt and were not ecstatic about it is because, deep down, they did not deserve it especially those expecting or even asking for it (there are people out there that do that).  The value of the belt is the uncertainty of when and if given.  Not meeting the requirements in a grading can be a positive thing because it encourages the student to never give up (one of life's greatest philosophies).  To change the grading system so everybody can get over the finish line is to weaken the art and deceive the student.  

Spare a thought for the humble BJJ student who does not know when and if they ever get their belt; just a little stripe if they're lucky enough but they don't complain.  I think we can learn something from this.  

People should remember they are in the martial arts for the training, not for belts.  Instead, belts are a consequence of training.  Those outside this thinking are only kidding themselves. Earning a Black Belt is one of greatest feelings ever.  It is well worth waiting for.
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Nurturing a Baby

There are times when Instructors might feel teaching beginners, in the martial arts, is a mundane job by having to go over the basics.  Good instructors see things differently.  It's about challenge to get the point across to these very important people.  Beginners are new and have special needs, and need to be  nurtured just like a newly born child needs a parent.  But there is also another underlying factor for the Instructor; the thought process in which a technique needs to be explained to get the point across to the beginner.

During a BJJ class of beginners, the other day, it struck me.  The thought process of going over the basics by verbally explaining the techniques is the very same process of proof reading a document.  Proof reading can be done by reading it out aloud to yourself to see if you can pick up any errors or see if it makes any sense.  I thought, ‘wow’, this is really enjoyable.  I mentioned to the students how I also had learned something by doing the very basic stuff with them because I can see unfolding bits of the puzzle as I was explaining the techniques.  They also said, 'wow' (trust me, I'm having a giggle here). 

The bread and butter stuff sometimes seems to get put on the back burner because we always want to be excited with new ideas and ‘toys’ not realising the basics which are taught to beginners are more important than the higher level stuff because they are the foundations that hold the art rock solid.
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It’s Not a Lie if You Believe it

We live in a society where we can get almost anything.  However, people in less fortunate circumstances don't expect much and have to work hard to get what they want.  That is why, in the martial arts world, we are experiencing a belt frenzy because people forget that belts (ranks) are about participation and accomplishment as a reward for their time and effort.  It's fast becoming that people, in the martial arts, expect belts without having to do much.  You can forgive students for thinking that way but not Instructors or Black Belts.  

The BJJ philosophy is don’t ask for a promotion because the only belt you will get is a belting.  One young BJJ white belt last year kept asking me when was he going to be graded.  I said, “You have 23 hours  training.  Your mate has done 43 hours and he’s not even ready for promotion.  Now you tell me when do you think you should be graded."

There are some Instructors, of various disciplines, who like to get in on the act (BJJ) but not having to do the work.  They have contacts and can weasel their way around the system to get their belts in return for favours. It is better these fools stay home and help mum or the wife with the ironing.  They may impress their students but not everybody else.  They should do a risk assessment before making claims because, if found out, that may also reflect on everything else they have done in the past.  Now I know where they get their thinking from – to quote George Costanza (SEINFELD), "It's not a lie if you believe it."

Amazingly, those who don’t ask for gradings are the ones who work really hard and the ones who do ask, do very little.  Clearly, there are some issues here.
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Keep Looking

As an Instructor I need to remind students that no matter how many times they have seen something demostrated, they should be looking at it with much more intensity.  I personally have never failed to pick up anything new by watching the same technique over and over again.  It might be only minute detail but that is enough to gratify me for the rest of the day.  This little difference is called development and that is what makes you better at what you do.

 To demonstrate this point to students, I talk about a technique having 100 little steps from A to B; a beginner will possibly see 2 or 3 moves.  The more experienced will see, say, 5 or 6, and so on it goes as we move up the experience ladder.  I ask students what they should be doing is try and find something they have not noticed before in the equation – rumour says it can be accomplished by listening, looking and doing.  If we achieve this mindset through our martial arts, just think about about how well this translates with school or our work.

Development stops when the student ceases to want to learn more.  This usually happens when they feel they know it well enough and no longer have to look or listen.  It’s like a 100 metre sprinter who doesn’t feel the need to listen to their coach anymore because they know how to sprint.  Training is about observation, doing, trying, analysing and repeating.  Many times I might do something in a certain way because it feels right but subconsciously I might not be totally aware of all the little steps from A to B.  It is when I breakdown it down and explain the moves from what I just did.
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Never Give Up!

If anybody in the martial arts was to tell you ‘give it up’, you should be asking yourself whether you have lost confidence or is it because they’ve lost their confidence in you?  Students should know a good martial arts instructor will generally not give up on any of their students; in fact, they get more satisfaction working with students who need that extra little help or motivation.

When a young martial arts student may be thinking of throwing the towel in, parents would be doing more harm than good by readily supporting this negative attitude because the only message here is 'it is ok to quit'.   Young people, today, may easily get distracted and are more likely to drop things at a moment's notice only because it is an easy option.  What parent would support their child if that child was thinking of quitting school? 

It is our job, as a parent, to encourage young persons to never quit something they start.  Quitting the martial arts means they are quitting on building confidence, quitting on strengthening their minds and bodies, quitting building character ie they are giving up on themselves.

Martial arts training is about achieving goals and to understand life is about persistence no matter how hard things may seem to be.  MARTIAL ARTS today is now part of growing up.  Giving up is a poor excuse, not a valid reason.
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More Rubbish (part 2)

How many times have you picked up something and you didn’t know what it was or couldn’t find the directions on how to use it.  So why did you buy it in the first place?  Shopping is a form of therapy and coming home with something is a sense of accomplishment, empty handed is a sign of failure for many people.

Specials!  Everybody likes a bargain so they’ll buy something they don’t need because it gives them something to talk about the next time they are sitting with a friend at a coffee shop.  Fuel  docket savers; you want to save money, don’t spend money.  Spend $10,000 on junk and you earn a free flight then you have no idea where to go.

Junk is something you bought a few months ago and you wish you had never bought it. There are better ways to spend money.  To quote, John Will, ‘there are two things worth spending money on – good food and knowledge'.  I agree whole heartedly with this.  At least these things will not be something taking up what precious room left in the house and gathering dust, and you won’t be regretting it in 6 months time.

Good luck with Clean Australia Day.
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Time to Get Rid of Rubbish

I’m talking about junk, the stuff that has been accumulating in your house for years.  Have a good look around and see if any of that stuff is worthwhile keeping anymore.  Ask yourself these questions:

1.     Did you forget you had it?

2.     Has it got dust on it?

3.     Did you trip over it?

4.     Is it worthless?

5.     Would you buy it again?

6.     Do you regret you ever bought it?

7.     Does anybody want it?

The answers to these questions should be able to make us realise 90% of the stuff we buy is junk!  We can’t help ourselves because we have made shopping an activity or even a hobby.  We shop because it makes us feel good and we buy things because we think we need  them.  They end up in a pile reducing the little precious room we may have left in our house.  Of course there is ebay if you want to get rid of things and you may end up with a smile selling your rubbish not realising you sold it for a fraction of what you actually paid for it.  And when you don't sell, it’s much worse when your friends don't even want them just giving them away.

My point – get to those seminars where you get value for your money.  I still spend money but I don't waste them on junk.  I know it's not rubbish I am paying for.  When you throw rubbish out you won't even miss it.
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