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Emotional Acclimatization: This is something I’ve heard a few times at Shihan Richard’s seminars. This is not new and it refers to 'overcoming emotional infringements arising from a stressful event which is important for vital
activity' (straight from the text book). Martial artists and other people with life experiences will fully understand this. To give a couple of examples, the experienced doorman is far less emotional, than the average person, when dealing with confrontations, and an experienced prize fighter doesn't become overly concerned of being hit because of adaptation to the pain.
It’s quite common to feel the stress when first competing in tournaments. In my early days of competition I eventually learned to adapt to this type of environment; there would be days where I would turn up to a tournament, after a night shift, and would have a nap until somebody would come and wake me up when it was my turn to fight. You also learn to take pain; after a couple of full contact fights I never really got worried about getting hit.
What’s equally important is emotionally adapting to real life self defence situations. If you have to defend yourself for the very first time, expect emotions to escalate, which are likely to cause an unprecedented adrenal dump, resulting in considerable decrease in gross motor skills. It won’t matter how many techniques you know because these will be difficult to recall if you're not emotionally acclimatized. Those who disagree should think of a time where they may have over-reacted in a silly traffic incident with another motorist; this is why normal people can end up in road rages because they become too emotional and don’t know what they're doing at the time.
We can usually choose our own environments which minimises the chances of getting into trouble but there are those who have no choice through necessity in their work, like I have! It got to the stage, if I got into a fight, my attitude was 'I might as well enjoy it since there was nothing I can do about it at the time, but do, whatever it took me, to do the job; that was my way of overcoming fear.
Emotional acclimatization does not come in pill form, however, there is a remedy. Remember, how painful was that first shin kick to your leg? After a few of them, it’s not too bad. You learn to adapt to the pain with repetition. I am not suggesting self harm so please don't try and get the better half of a baseball bat. What students need to do is experience emotions under controlled conditions so acclimitization can go to work. It's OK to be man-handled by your Instructor (for the right reasons) or take a few good hits, at least you won't freak out if it ever happens to you in a real situation. This is much needed in the reality based component of the martial arts but the student must want this type of training and understand the way it should be administered.
By the way, don't stress out all over this. Just keep in mind something which may appear bad might actually be good for you.
GA
In Business Making People Feel Happy!
Every now and then I run into old students especially kids who have grown up and they greet me with a bow and call me, Sir. It's inspirational to know they still have respect, so I must be doing something right. Just the other day, a student (in his '30s) who used to train in the ACT over 3 years ago (now lives in Perth), has contacted me via the 'on line enquiry'. He has not been able to find a school despite recommending him some very good Insctructors:
Marc: Would like to know if Budoshinkai will ever be part of Western Australia?
Reply: It will depend if any of our Black Belts decide to live there and open up a school. I believe you are the Marc that used to train with Damien (ACT).
Marc: Thank you for the reply. I hope, one day, someone will! I absolutely love what you teach and what I've been taught from Damien. And yes, it is Marc that trained with Damien.
Thanks, Marc, for your wonderful comments. I wish I could help you because you are the type of person we want around. You are fussy, though. Maybe, it might be easier to move to back to the ACT.
I get a lot of that and I believe other Instructors do, too. One of my first 2nd Dan Black Belts, of the late '80's, called me recently. He just wanted to let me know there was nobody else out there like the way I taught classes! I was thinking what I used to teach then was based on my knowledge of that time. Now, I do it differently because what what I teach now is still based on my knowledge, the difference being, I have more to offer!
The martial arts has really advanced over the years. Richard and I once discussed 'wouldn't it be great to be have been taught all the things we now know, back then; we'd be so much better'.
Just to let a few people know the residual pain from my back injury has just about disappeared. I am starting to cause a little grief to some people on the mats and those who are in the leather exchange trade. My Police Commander was astonished when he found out I am back pushing heavy inanimate objects. Mr John Will caught me by surprise when he was advising me on particular techniques until I realised he thought I was still nursing my back. I said, 'no more back injury', his reply, 'GREAT'. There's two more people I made happy! It will be good catching up with Mr John Will (the blog master) in Sydney this week. To quote, John, 'you are an exceptionally good writer', he loves reading my blogs! Many thanks, Mr Will, I love your blogs, too!
One more item: Shihan Richard Norton is in the States, once again, catching up with other friends and doing a bit of training. Hope not for long! I wonder whether it has anything to do with our challenge (lol)!
GA
I Do!
Last night I was at a wedding at one of our Black Belts, Daniel Matos, who has been with us since the age of 10 years old. It was in Darling Harbour with the best views in the world and my wife and I were sitting with Daniel's father, Victor (and his wife) who is one of our senior Black Belts; we were very honoured to sit next to them because he said I am one of his best friends. Same goes here.
My kids, Jonathan and Marcia, both Black Belts, not sitting far away with Dr Chris and his partner. A bit like a Budoshinkai get together. People develop habits seeing each other as a result of family, friendship, work or common interest.
I have found one of the best things in the martial arts is the people you meet and get to know. Ultimately, over the years, you end up being best friends and you couldn't imagine losing that friendship. My friends, outside the martial arts, cannot understand that and they never will!
I asked Maria how did she feel losing her son but she answered she wasn't losing a son but gaining a daughter (good come back).
When Daniel was making his speech my memories at the time were of Victor bringing him to my school for the first time. Outside school, Victor and I would regularly meet up, with both our sons, for coffee or lunch. Now, Daniel and Jonathan are grown up gentlemen. I am looking forward to our other young students reaching adulthood. Thank you, Daniel and Tamara, for the invitation. It was an absolutely sensational night.
The couple was extremely happy but I think the father was even happier.
GA
